14. Martial Arts, Rugby, & British Accents | Sam Part 2

Part 2: You're in luck if you are either a rugby or MMA fan as Sam discusses his experience and training in both sports (and hear me talk the most about sports in my life)! Is it "Burningham" or "Birmingham?". I make Sam show us what accents from various parts of England sound like. Of course, I then proceed to fail miserably at trying to speak in various American accents, including from down here in Texas! Lastly, a brief word from Sam on his current viewpoint on dating & relationships.

Stay tuned and cheer Sam on in his very first MMA fight for cancer research @samr1ce on IG.

Special thanks to my friend Andy (IG: stevandrew_) for his part in producing this episode.

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And I know you do martial arts. So tell us a little about that, how you got into it. And then where do you see that going in the future? Is it called? We have UFC here. I dunno if what you guys have is that, do you guys have that too? UFC is a championship. So it's an organization that's the company, and that's essentially the best, arguably the best company for it and the world.

So if you're the champ, then you're like the best in the world. But we, we also have that as it's stretched over the whole world, but we have a lot different organizations as well. But yeah, I, I never played, I never did martial arts when I was young, young played rugby from age and probably like seven.

Until about 18. I don't know, to me, it's kind of like a team martial art in a way, because I don't know if you know anything about Rugby, but.

I know a bit about it. Yeah. So I don't know for me, it's like you full not line and that's not the unbreakable line and it saw it. It's in a way kind of like a team wrestling sport. I don't know. You're not crossing this line on. But then I'll start to do in saying when I was about 15 and then did that for a couple of years and then went back to rugby and then started doing mixed martial arts, like in general.

Yeah, I've not really looked back since then I'm just really enjoying it. Uni's good, I've now signed up for it's called a white collar and then a fight. And it's, it's completely free. You get eight weeks free training, which is one of the reasons I'm doing it because I'm a student and I have no money.

Yeah. Eight, eight weeks free training. And then you have a fight at the end of it, and all the money. That's like you put up like a page and all of the money that's raised, goes to cancer research. Wow. That's amazing. So this what's the school that you're training at? Well it's this place called Kaobon, which is actually the best MMA gym in all of England.

And it has three USC fighters coming out of it, which is pretty crazy. Like, I don't know how much you know, about martial arts, but that's... Maybe name the people that you're talking about. Cause maybe some of the listeners are into it. Okay. Darren Till, Tom Aspinall, Mark Grimley. If anyone knows their names, but like, even if you're at the bottom of the UFC, but rankings, you're still really good.

And the fact that they've got like three fighters in there, two of them are like near the top of the divisions it's ready big. So it's different coaches because it saw it an outside organization. And I won't be training with UFC relatives because they have different times training or whatever.

But it's, it's, I don't know, it's a good gym and I've had a lot of thoughts come out of but I don't know. It's quite hard to juggle because I've started a lot of different societies as well through my uni and like different martial arts as well. So I've done Japanese jujitsu, karate unboxing so far, but it's like, I want to keep them up because it's through the uni.

I'll make a lot of friends that go to my uni. But then it thought the days I training and now I'm doing this event. So I don't really know. Well, you are a man of many passions. That's a lot to juggle for sure. Especially that you just started university and you're just getting your feet wet. And you're already plugged into all these things and training at a famous UFC gym or martial arts gym.

So where's this fight going to be? And where can people find you if they want to help support the charity for cancer research and where can they watch this fight? When it goes on live? To be honest with you, I have no idea where it is, why you can watch it all have updates on my Instagram. But that's, that's where I'll probably put all my stuff I might put on Facebook, but I don't really use Facebook at all.

I just have it for like group chats. Yeah. Do you mind if the viewers find you on Instagram after this? Yeah, it's Samr1ce. I like it. So everyone keep updated. Cause like I said, it's TBD to be determined for now. We don't know the time or location or who you're fighting even.

Right. Yeah. I've not started my training. Yeah. I start training next week. I think even if it's next week, it might be the week after the. That's exciting. So this, this jam gives you a free weeks of training and all you have to do is be in a fight at the end of it. Yeah.

Yeah. And get some experience under your belt too. That's amazing. Do you know what happens after that? Do you continue fighting? Do you continue training? Yeah, I mean, I don't know. I don't think to keep training with the same organized show group. I've really don't know. I don't know if there's multiple events during the.

I'm definitely going to keep fighting and keep training. I also want to have a box in fight because box in society at the uni, it seems quite good. There's a lot of the people that are, that seem like they're quite good, which for me means better sparring and I can represent the uni.

I've done a lot of boxing, in my time. Like I'm very competent boxer. So I think if I'll come, I'm just gonna chill. Go back on Hatfield, the fight, like other, like if I get ready for one fight, then I'm going to be ready for the next fight as well.

So I don't really mind if that close together. Like for me, martial arts is actually free from the be safe, compared with rugby. Because I grew up in rugby and it's is all about being as heavy as you can. And then running full speed at someone who is probably heavier than you.

And it's just so much uncontrolled weight. A lot of the time it's like two men practicing one person there's scrums, you know, scrum all of them together. And if your lot in the middle of all of that, like people got paralyzed all of the time. Because it's dangerous. It's hard. It's hard to keep it safe when it's so much, so many people in the picture anyways, in the cage or.

Like a ring it's one-on-one and I can watch everything they do, and I can control it. I don't know. It seems less safe, but I actually think it is. Okay. I guess that makes sense. I guess when you watching, when you're watching a fight on TV, you see all the bloody noses, eyebrows and blood everywhere, so it looks kind of dangerous, but you do have that one opponent versus in rugby.

It's a whole field of really heavy guys running at you. And I can attest to that. My husband has regular practice twice a week, and he has games on the weekends and every time he comes home, he's just a, that. Yeah. Like every time I'm like, what it, what did they do to you this time? Like, you're always coming home to me, broken up and he has this huge froze right now on his arm because someone had stepped on him.

So you could see the cleat marks. And then he's like, people keep stepping on my hands at practice and then his ankle is swollen. And like when you're in the scrum, your ears get chopped up. Yeah. Cauliflower ears. So luckily he doesn't have that yet, but he usually plays center, but right now he's playing. I forget what it's called.

He's right now, his coach is using him as one of the big guys, even though he's not one of the bigger guys. So he's in the back of the, not sure. I know he's the one that's yeah, maybe he said he's the one that's like at the very back of the scrum and like pushing. That's 8 man. That's that's the one.

Yeah. So that's why his coach using him for now, cause he's one of the most diversely skilled players. So his coach will put him in different positions and the rugby is not a huge thing where I live in El Paso. So there's not a lot of people that know about it. So his team's not that big it's through the university as well.

And he doesn't, it's not a huge team. And a lot of the players are new. Like this is their first time playing rugby or even hearing about it. So his coach is using him. Cause he has more experience. So he's using him in like all of the positions basically. Cause he's versatile, but typically he, he likes center cause he's more of a runner.

Yeah. But right now they're using him as one of the eighth men where you have to push and you're heavy and even during a lineup. He was the one lifting a guy that was heavier than him. He was lifting the guy that was like 40 pounds heavier than him. I'm like, this doesn't make sense. Like why did they put you at the bottom?

Yeah. Yeah. That's the position I used to play actually number eight. Oh really? And you're not like huge either. Nah, honestly, I don't know. You need to know Rugby really well to know how big you need to be for each  position all of the back row. You don't need to be that big. It's more about being really mobile and and good at tackling.

Okay. Yeah. And the times that likely he hasn't gotten too severely injured yet, with rugby, I'm praying, like every time I watch a game, I'm like, don't touch him. Like people do not touch him. I'm like, just always like nervous whenever I watch a game, but he gets beaten up during practice well enough.

But usually he plays the center. Like that's, that's his ideal, I guess. Cause he likes to run and move, but in American football is where he's actually gotten severely injured. So you would think it's the opposite because in rugby there's no padding there's yeah. I mean, that's what makes American football so bad and it's not padding.

It's just like. Hardness what's the even made up of, is it just hard plastic? I think so. Yeah. I mean, you have a helmet, you have the pads on you. And the times that he has gotten severely injured was when he was playing actual American football. Rugby, t's very intense and it's very rough, but I think you have, because you're not wearing helmets and padding, you have to be a little more cognizant of the way that you're tackling someone or the way that you fall down is from what I understand it.

And so, yeah. Well there's a lot more rules. Well, not, not more rules, but rules in the sense of thought. If you talk. You can't talk with them above the chest. Really. Why is an American football? You can just come and close line someone. In rugby you're just squeezing people's legs.

That's why you said it's like a martial art to you and team martial arts. That's cool. I've never looked at it that way. Yeah. It's sort of a viking shield wall where like, when you're all together and you're like, they're not getting past this line.

Yeah. I love the haka. Did you ever do the haka? Oh, no. Yeah. Yeah. I see. I learned to, I don't know why. I think I'll have to learn it just school. Isn't that? But I remember I learned it.

Where does that come from? Is the New Zealand New Zealand? Yes. Maori. Yeah. It's like a tribal war dance before every rugby game. I love it. It makes us so much more fun to watch than American football. Just like the whole vibe of it. I love the war dance in the beginning of it and just the lineup people thrown really high and yeah, it's a lot more exciting to me.

Yeah. I'd love to get the New Zealand and watch rugby because like in England, it is still a big thing in England. It's pretty much in England the one sport that everyone loves the name it's football, as in soccer. And like, like everyone, like if you talk to someone it's always about sport, the first thing someone's going to ask you is about what football team do you support?

Something like that. Whereas in New Zealand it's like the opposite and rugby is the number one. And then I think the next most popular sport is about martial arts. Yeah, that's so cool. I love learning all the different quirks and intricacies of every culture. So next year, like next fall, 2022 August, I think my husband and I are supposed to go to Tokyo for a rugby tournament.

Yeah. So it was supposed to be Finland this year, 2021, but that couldn't happen because he covid like all of Europe is still closed, so they ended up changing the plans to do Tokyo next year. And it's going to be a rugby tournament with, I guess, the local teams in Japan. Yeah. It's booming in Japan now.

Like probably like 10 years ago they had hardly any rugby in Japan. They beat South Africa in a world cup a couple of years ago, maybe more than a couple of years ago, but like South Africa are one of the best teams in the world. And I remember that being like a really big thing for them.

Yeah. Cause I know the Springboks won, I think last year or something, I didn't know that Japan had beat them. That's pretty impressive. Yeah. They're trying to make it a bigger thing over there in Asia, China as well. They have cities that have their own professional teams now. So they're trying to make it more of a culture in Asia, which is really cool to see.

I think it's already good culture to grow up in as a kid, because I don't know in England because we've got football soccer, and then rugby as well. That's probably the big two team sports for boys in general. Aa lot of the time you can have differences just because of the different cultures.

There's this massive hooligan culture where football games, they get through them and can they get in massive groups and then they go and fight the opposition team and they'll have that group of hooligans. Whereas in Rugby, you would never got that ready, but obviously you will occasionally get fights, but like every single day and they go there to fight this other group.

And I think that's to do with the culture around it, but rugby's also such a physical game that if you're angry at somebody, You're not going to wait until after the game and punch them. You're not going to punch them on the pitch. Most of the time, you're just gonna, you're just gonna put everything in the next call, you can hurt them and sort of get your aim back, whereas in football you jus can't. 

So it really does. I don't know. It does show like, especially the fans of teams, it's like an organized thing for a lot of people to just go and fight. That's crazy. I never heard of that. So football slash soccer, hooligan culture. If you want to know more about that, watch a film called green streets, green street. 

Yeah. I dunno if I've heard of that in the states, like hooligan teams fighting each other. I mean, fans of teams fighting each other over soccer teams in America,

I know Russians do it, honestly, I thought it was a thing like, in England, if you're at the pub, if the Pub then closed, everyone will wait outside and wait for fights to kick off because that's just a thing that happens. And I thought that was a thing until I started traveling and talking to the people.

But like, I don't know where it's come from. I guess it's just a thing that in English culture that people are just like fight any it's just like fighting each other and finding outside a pubs after drinking.

Yeah. So more about English culture and all that. I'm not too familiar with the different areas. I know there's different accents like London, there's an English accent and then there's different accents than other areas. I guess, what would yours be considered? And then would you be able to speak in the other region accents or not. 

And then I'll try, my American was, but I'm not very good. Like we have like the Boston accent where it's like lost. Yeah. It's like you left your car keys or something like that. I can't really do it very well. And then there's like the new, New York accent where it's like New York, New Jersey, like Joycee yeah.

I'm not very good. And then there's like Southern accent. There's like Georgia, there's Texas, Louisiana accidents. Like, yeah. So there's like all kinds in America as well. And I kind of have like a mix of like a Hispanic accent cause where I live I'm right, right on top of Mexico, um, I live in a border town.

So people say that that I have like a Mexican accent.

Maybe a Mexican American accent. Yeah. It's just where I'm from. There's certain things like we say in El Paso, like we say, like, you know, or we say ayay, I there's like certain things. Yeah. But that's like the same with me. Like in England, I know there's different regions of different accents, but I don't know if you shoot your shot, try them.

Okay. So, You've got like are you familiar with a Scottish accent? Yes, and it's different than an Irish accent.  Yeah. So you've got the south part of English is  where you've got like the proper English accent. I probably sound more southern as well, I'm trying to pronounce my words better.

Whereas like, for example, better, I'd just say beh-er. When you get more of like a proper well-spoken person, you know? I mean, generally. Yeah. 

And then you've got where I'm from, which is the Midland which sounds like me. People would say that I sound like I'm from Birmingham, but like there's parts of my, that is different a little bit, but Birmingham is smaller. Right. So this, this impression is simply because there was a Rugby. When I was younger, there was a dad who was from Birmingham. So Johnny get your bike off the pitch! 

No, it was, get your bike off the pitch.

And that's like Peaky Blinders. And then, and then you've got where I'm at now. That's the have you ever heard of chicken and a can of coke?

Yeah. And then you've got a Manchester accent, which I can't really do very well. Yeah, I can't really do that one, but then I'd say that was the main one is probably New Castle. So the sentence on going down the town, which essentially means I'm going to go on a night out in Newcastle is I'm goin don to ton. Wow. What's something else in the new castle accent that you can say. I'm not very good at all. I just know that one phrase I don't really know I'm going down to town. Um, so it sounds like you're shooting people, I'm gunnin on to ton.

Cool. I haven't heard of those. I think I've only heard like Adele. I don't know if that's like a London accent or something.

Thanks for trying. That was pretty entertaining. There is a lot more though. That's, what's really surprised my about this is not a very big place of pool, but it's like so many different accents, a lot, really different ones as well. Like for me, I can tell a bit of difference between the American ones, but only like the strong difference.

Whereas generally I wouldn't be able to like hear someone and be like, yo. Unless it's like New York or something and all that. And it's like a really strong one. Whereas I feel like even for Americans, if you heard the Liverpool accent and you knew what a Liverpool accent sounded like you'd be able to distinguish it.

Well, now I know it's Liveerpuel.

Uh, and then you just reminded me now. Now I just remember people usually say, I sound like I'm from California. Yeah. They say I have a west coast surfer sounding chill type of voice.

So they usually don't guess that I'm from Texas. They're usually assume I'm from the west coast, Texas. No. The only thing I say is y'all y'all y'all yeah. Hey, y'all that's the only thing I say. My Texas accent comes out sometimes that's the easiest one for me, I think just because it's what I've heard the most, but where I live, my, the city that I live, it's kind of, we're kind of not the typical Texas you would think of, like in a Western film where you see the tumbleweeds rolling by and the guns and the Cowboys and the saloons.

I live in El Paso, Texas, which is right next to New Mexico and Mexico. So a lot of the times people think we are in the New Mexico state or we're in Mexico, the country and where New Mexico is a state. Oh, really? Yeah. So, there's Texas. And then under Texas is Mexico, the nation. And then next to Texas, you have New Mexico, which there's like four squares.

It's like New Mexico, Arizona, Utah, and Colorado. And then you have Nevada and California and all that, the west coast. So people, when you say El Paso, people usually think we're in New Mexico, but we're actually at the tippy part of Texas. We have this saying called just the tip.

It is like people have t-shirts and stuff. It's like the map, the map of Texas. I don't know if you know what it looks like. I don't expect you to. And then there's. Yeah, it's okay you're in a different nation. So you're, you're cool. So there's the state of Texas. It's like a cool looking puzzle piece looking thing.

And then there's this little triangle tip part. So that's where we're at. The very tip is El Paso. That's why we have that. It's called just the tip.

Yeah. So yeah, so we kind of have a lot more Mexican influence and new Mexican, we have like TexMex, it's like our food it's called Texas Mexican food. Yeah. Yeah. That's more New Mexico as well. So it's like love or hate, like some people like hate TexMex and they prefer authentic Mexican food.

So that's like where I grew up and where I currently live. So we have a lot more of that Hispanic flare and that culture because like 80% of my city is Hispanic.

In England I mean, I'm probably wrong about this, but like, it feels like we have like hardly any Hispanic people, but I don't know. I know you guys have a lot of like, um, like Pakistani and Indian people. Yeah. We've got a lot of people from everywhere, but not Hispanic. Yeah. Not really from central or south America. I think, I think it's probably because everyone that isn't in that couldn't treat that once to go to a different country, then probably just go to America because it's so much closer, you can kind of get there by land as well. Yeah, that makes sense.

Yeah. It's yeah, it's really different here. Like if you ever come there's off the freeway, which I dunno if you guys call the highway or something or interstate highway motorway. Motorway. Okay. So we call it freeway or highway off the freeway. You can see Mexico. 

But yeah, if you ever do come, you'll see it. You'll be able to see Mexico across the way. There's the Rio Grande river the Rio Grande. That it's like a huge, huge, huge, long river that extends through different states and down to Mexico, it kind of cuts through the border. So that's kind of the board of town that I live in.

And then I went to school in Lubbock, Texas, which is more in the centered part of Texas. So that's where you would kind of get that other Texan vibe where it's like the flat Plains. Everything's flat, not mountain knows where I live and where I live. There's high elevation. There's a lot of mountains.

And then in Lubbock where I went to college, it was flat and that's where the tornadoes are. And that's where the tumble weeds and lots of farm land and oil fields and things like that. When I think of, when I think of Texas, I thought it was a massive desert.

I thought the whole thing was a desert. 

Yeah we do have different Landscapes. A lot of it is quite desert-like, like, but there's a lot of different, like where I am. It is the desert it's called the Chihuahuan desert. And, but it's the most biodiverse desert of the world. So even though it's a desert, we do have a lot of vegetation and animals and it's a lot of biodiversity and I love our mountains.

We have our mountains here and it's just amazing to be able to drive through and look at them and see the mountains every day. Yeah. I don't take it for granted anymore.

Do you ever get to rock climb? There are some people that, that do climbing here. I'm not that intense. And I do fear for my life, so I haven't gotten into it. Have you tried it, uh, a little bit about, I want to get more into that. Like, I don't know. I out this, just some in satisfying,  about going, like, that's really cool.

I'm going to go up there and it's good for like grip strength and I don't know.

I've done indoor rock climbing. And even with that, I struggle a lot and I've done out rock climbing. The grip. Yeah. I have no grip. And then outdoor rock climbing. I did it in Colorado and I did. Okay. Actually outdoors was actually easier for me. Cause you can stick your hand in crevices and hold onto the boulders versus indoor rock climbing, those little pads.

I just can't grip onto them very well. So I prefer outdoor. I did buy some chalk for when I used to do indoor rock climbing. Yeah, it does help. Yeah. Because my hands get, get sweaty and then they'll slip from the grips. So you have to, I would recommend rock climbing shoes and I would recommend chalk, I use this thing,

It was the liquid chalk. I still have it. And it's like, it's liquid. So you get it like it's like hand sanitizer and then you put it on and it dries on your fingers. Yeah. So I prefer that I would use the liquid track, but I've never tried free climbing. That's too intense for me. It was, I saw this video of like, Some American guys free climbing this insane massive, pretty much vertical wall.

Unlike he was overtaking  people as well. He was just going at it, I don't know if I could do that. I do know a couple of people here that do bouldering. So they will go into our mountains here or drive a hour or two out. We have other mountain ranges nearby too. So there's, it's quite popular for bouldering and people come from different places, but I've just not had the opportunity to do it with people that know what they're doing and safely, but I will do it with the belay, if there's a belay hooked to me, I would do it, but not free. I would love to ive in the mountains. Yes. How's the landscape where you are right now. Is it just city? Yeah, it's pretty much just city, I have to climb up the hill to go to uni. Mmm exciting!

If you ever come by, let me know.

Yeah, I'm sure we'll come to America one day, but it's just so expensive to travel there. It's just ridiculous. So I need to get some money first. Yeah. We'll have time for that. So another difference of America in England, I was thinking, do you guys really drink tea instead of coffee? I mean, some people, it depends.

It just depends. Like, it's not like in America, everyone drinks coffee, is it? You know what I mean? I bet a lot of people drink tea. Probably more people here drink too, but like generally, I don't know. I have a coffee. I love coffee. Yeah, generally I think it's probably been phased out more.

I don't know. Maybe because there's more cafes and Starbucks. Uh, unlike more things like that. And so people are drinking more coffee, whereas thought other than a tea, I don't know. I'll have to be in the mood for tea. And I really love it with milk and honey.

But like, I don't know. And that's traditional in England, right? The milk and honey with tea I don't think honey, I think it's usually usually just have sugar. I have my Schrute Farms mug from the Office, which is another export from your country. The Office. Oh yeah.  Yeah. I just finished watching the British seasons.

I watched the American ones first and then I watched the British ones.

I liked the American one better. Okay. Fair enough. I don't know the English ones aren't amazing thing. I think that's a things that Ricky Gervais has done, but like, I just can't get past the, I don't know. For me, it was just because I watched the English version first and then I watched the first episode of the American one and it just felt like.

It felt like they tried to just copy it all and just ruined it. Okay. Oh, well I think we talked about this too when we're in Costa Rica. Yeah. Like the first episode. Yeah. The first episode of the American, the Office literally was a script copy of the British version, because that's what the, I think Rick Gervais and the network agreed on is what they would do.

And then episode two was my personal favorite episode of the entire franchise. It's called diversity day. Yeah. So season one, episode two is called diversity day. And that's where the American writers just went and did their own thing and they didn't have to stay on a script anymore. So not that I hated episode one. I mean, I still liked episode one, even though it was a copy of the British one. I didn't mind. It's still a good episode. Yeah but you watched it first. Oh, okay. That makes sense. You watched the British episode one first. Well, if anyone's listening, I would love to hear what you guys thought. Yeah. Honestly, I'll, I'll give them try again.

There are a lot of funny clips from that. It's all the memes are all over the place. Yeah. So you guys listening, I want to know your opinions about the office British versus American, and then what your favorite episode is. So just tweet me or comment on Instagram, but yeah, no, I love Season... Okay I love all the seasons of the American office.

Some people say, just skip season one, or like get past season one and season two gets better. I still think that the whole thing is good. Just episode two diversity day is my favorite episode. You have to watch it, but yeah, thanks for bringing us that since I know it originated from England and some people don't even know that.

Like there's office fans that I talked to and they didn't even know that there's like a British version and then I'll tell them, yeah, you should watch it too. Like watch both. I recommend to people to watch both. I still enjoy both. Yeah. Have you ever heard of the in-betweeners

so it's like, it's so good. Like the English version is so good and like it's over 10 years old now. And like, you could easily just reference it to almost anybody in England and they would know what you're talking about. Probably younger people, because it's about 4 lads that are our college, your high school on if it's literally just following them about. Like they made an American version and like, nah, it's British humor.

It just doesn't work. They just absolutely ruined it. All right. I will watch the British version, but no, I don't even know if you'll find the British version funny, I don't know. It's a hard one because it is proper rude as well. It's supposed to be like a bunch of young immature lads messing about, so one of them just thought lies about everything and goes into quite graphic detail. Okay. I've gathered that. I feel like British shows are a little more crude.

So I'll see maybe, maybe I'll get some of the references. Maybe I won't, but maybe it'll still teach me some things about England. Definitely. Honestly. Yeah. If you want to learn about Indian, there's probably a very educational show. It will teach you a lot of phrases. Okay. I'm pretty sure my friend Sian will want to watch it too.

Cause you know how she's obsessed with England.

Oh yes. And, okay, so last thing I want to ask you, I guess, how do things vary in England versus America? Like dating customs and practices. And then if you can tell us about, a little bit about your love life too, if you're comfortable with it.

I think that's quite a tricky question because everyone, everyone does it their own way. I guess like things that are acceptable or not acceptable, like here we have like, it's called ghosting. I'm sure you guys have it. We call it airing.

Like the air we're breaking. Okay. Well see that's something different. I didn't know that. And then we call it ghosting. Yeah. I mean, there's a lot of things that like a lot, a lot of people would say ghosting as well. It just, I feel like airing in is our own version of it, but people have taken ghosting from America.

I don't really know. I'm trying to think. I'm not, I'm not really a massive dater, but I don't know. Sounds like you're more focused on your other pursuits right now. Like the fighting and raising money for cancer and the uni and biology and all your clubs that you're engaged in school. I mean, I don't know, like I do agree with that, but it's also just like, I'm not looking for a relationship now.

The thing is when I was growing up, probably from the age of like 14 to like 18, I was pretty much in relationships the whole time. So now, like not being in a relationship. Something I've learned from traveling is even if I don't actually get with a girl or do anything with her, like you can still, I felt like you could still connect with someone a lot better if I was single, because I found like, if I was in a relationship, if I was getting to know a go to well.

And it was all going really well, that'd be something in the back of my mind. Like I can't really be doing this that much. I don't know. It's hard to explain, but I just like the freedom. I like only have to worry about myself. Yeah, also, I know now that like, if you chase girls, you're not really gonna get anywhere.

So I'm just gonna, do my own thing, and just wait for it.

Very wise words. I think. Yeah, too people chase it. Oh yeah. I think that's, that's, that's good advice to impart. I think just don't be chasing and just wait for it to come naturally. So focus on yourself and then everything that's meant to be will come your way. I love it. That's the best way to end the show. Well, yeah, that's, I mean, that makes sense.

You know, especially if you're going to be traveling and you just started uni, so you don't want to get yourself mixed into anything. Like my little brother just started uni as well. And then we were talking on the phone and there's like this girl. He's like, I don't know if she likes me. I'm like, if she's playing hard to get, like, you don't want that.

Anyway. I hope he listens to this and realized as if she's trying to playing hard to get, then he needs to pay how to get on just focus on himself and therefore be more attractive because nobody wants to go out with the guy that's following them.

Exactly. And he's got, he's got a good head on his shoulders. So I think he'll figure it out. I'll I'll send this to him. Definitely. And yeah, he just started uni too, so I'm like, don't get yourself wrapped up in anything too serious. Just have fun. Find out who you are, discover yourself, meet people. So if anyone that's listening, that's just started university.

If you have any further questions for us or advice, let us know, and we'll try to get to you later, but here's a little bit of what we think, but thanks. Thanks for sharing that part about your life and keep us updated if anything changes, but it's like, who knows, but it sounds like you're living your best life.

Yeah, I think I'm enjoying life right now. All the uni work, but yeah. Oh man. Yeah. I'll have to let you go soon so you can go do your homework. I'm going out tonight. I'm gonna start drinking. Yeah. It's a Saturday night, you know, that's true. I've been out of college for a couple of years now. Well, that sounds like fun.

But before you go, what is something you would like to hook the viewers up with? I call it the hook you up segment. So just there's been a lot of things that you've already told us about like be water, my friend, the book, and, oh no, you knew what it was. Something that's mad interesting.

And the everyone should pay more attention to is there sleep. And I read this book called I think it was called why we sleep. My favorite chapter of it was about dreaming and not why we dream and essentially dreaming. He put it in a way that it's dreaming is therapy in your sleep. So what it does, it takes all your memories from the time before, not your whole life, but say tonight asleep, I'll probably have the memories from the day.

And what it does is it pays back in this weird order, that is a dream. Obviously you need to watch it. And that enables you to be able to store the information and your long-term memory without storing the emotion. So if you think about a memory general memory, maybe not like a ready side one or something like that, but general memory, if you think about it, you can probably picture it, think about what was going on, whatever, but it doesn't bring back to the emotion that you're feeling at that time.

Um, so that's what it does. But then on the other side of that, can you feel that have PTSD? They can't dream properly about these certain events and not swag. When they think about this memory, it brings back all the emotion that they felt in the town with the memories. Okay. Yeah. So basically, cause I've heard of this too, when you're dreaming, it's kind of, or when you're sleeping, your brain is kind of categorizing all the memories of that day into this is important.

This is not important and it just kind of organizes this. So it kind of makes sense to you. But when you're dreaming, my dreams are very jumbled and out of order. So I'll be here and then I'll be there and then there's this person's here and then they're not, and then there's another person. So I definitely could relate to that, that it just comes very jumbled.

And, but that's the first thing. That's the first time I've heard of that. You leave the emotions out of your memories when you're dreaming your, so your mind is playing back to you, the events, but not the memory that's associated of the emotion that you're feeling, I guess at the time. I don't know how it works.

I don't know if it completely neglects the emotion in that process, or if it just pays it back in order so that you process the emotion properly and you therefore don't have to store it.

This is why he calls it like therapy in your sleep because it gets you past the emotion so that you don't have to store it. And then, and then it thought it's probably like a survival thing, because if you, for example, were a hunter gatherer and you see a... You're out hunting and 

You've got a memory of when a deer kicked you, when you're a child, if you thought about this memory, it brought back all the emotion that you felt, the child you'd be on the ground, crying. Whereas instead of that, you store the information. So then I can go, okay, that's a deer. It kicked me once when I was a kid, I'm not going to get too close to that.

Okay. That makes more sense. I like that. Yes. It brings back the memory of pain and fear, but not the full emotive aspects of it where you're just overwhelmed and okay. Well even like what you said that in not pain. Pain isn't an emotion. It's like a physical feeling, but at the same time, like you probably process that in the same way as you do emotion, because it thought you can think that they're hurting you, the kids, but it doesn't start hurting you.

Okay. You don't feel the pain again. You just get reminded of it. Okay. That makes sense. And why PTSD people, they have an issue with that where, like you said, the men, the memory gets conjured, but then they also all of the anxiety and the pain and the fear, all of that comes back in, in the full force at that moment.

Okay. That makes a lot of sense. I'm big into dreams as well. I think there's a reason we train them and all that. So what do you do, do you journal after you wake up or do you draw, or how do you process your dreams to try to pay more attention to. I don't do anything. I'll let mudrooms do whatever they want.

I'll just the main point on like, obviously that was the explanation about dreams, but the main overarching said just about how important you sleep is. Like, because you only dream for like a tiny bit of your sleep. So you dream, you need to be sleeping for a decent amount of time as it is. Like I would recommend this book.

I think, I think it's called while we sleep on Matthew Walker, I think as well as this, it goes into stuff about sleeping pills caffeine, the full bath, all these different things that affect your sleep. Just about how important your sleep is, because it really sorts your brain out. I like it.

I think that's very important to do. And then you just reminded me. I know you like to draw, you had the drawing notebook. When we were in Costa Rica together, we never had a chance to flip through it. I wanted to look through and we were always so busy. We didn't get too many breaks, but I guess if you have time in the future, if you have any nice drawings you want to showcase, just send them to me and I'll post them on the gram.

Okay. So cause when I was in Austria, that was the only thing I could do was draw. So I got like quite a few decent drawings done, but to be honest, I've been so busy. I've not had chance to draw, but I need to start doing it again. I just haven't what to draw. Well, I guess tattoo designs. Exactly. Yeah, exactly.

Things that inspire you. Yeah. I'm just curious. So I want to see them for myself. So send some over to me when you have a few to share. 

I want them to take pictures of them until Christmas. Okay. And then that way, if people are like, I want this as a tattoo design, then when you learn to be a tattoo artist, then you can do that. Well, thanks so much. Thank you so much. My brethren from another nation. I had to rhyme it!

Thank you for having me. Oh my gosh. This was so much fun. I just love hearing from you. We'll have to catch up soon again. Cause I just know you have so much more to tell us. Maybe. 

We'll definitely do it. I'm sure you will. And then once you do get into dating, then we can talk about that. You can vent to me about that. Until your podcast blows up and the person that I'm talking about watches it.

Uh-oh. Oops! 

I'm sure there's a lot more that you're going to travel and there's more things that you're going to let us know about a new tattoo. And then maybe you can update me after your MMA fight and just tell me how all that went to good luck with all that it's in a couple months, but just good luck with training before Christmas.

Okay. Don't stress yourself too much with schoolwork and all that just. Try to enjoy life. And it sounds like you're like me, like you got so many things going on. Like when I was in college too, like I had like clubs and I was in all these organizations and yeah. So just enjoy your time and good luck with training.

Don't get hurt. Don't get beat up too much and good luck on your fight, your first fight. First MMA fight.

Pretty big deal. All right, well, we'll be cheering you on. Thank you. Just to remind everyone, if you could donate to the the fight thing for cancer research. That'd be great. And that we'll have a link to that in my Instagram. Yeah. And I'll be posting as well to mine. So mine is @MFMPPod

And so I'll be posting to my Twitter, Facebook, Instagram, and then linking to your page as well. So people can know where to follow. Awesome. Talk to you soon!